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Feedback is a tricky thing, when receiving it or giving it. People often don't like hearing feedback because it can be negative feedback and people don't like feeling like they've failed, which is why many people don't even try in the first place.
People are afraid of making mistakes, of being wrong and it holds so may people back from their true potential because they won't try. They see mistakes as a bad thing because that is what we're taught. But as this article Making Good Art explains and as Neil Gaiman says we should be making mistakes, we should be making many mistakes "because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things". Mistakes are how we learn, making a mistake allows you to look at the situation figure out what not to do in similar situations in the future or the figure out what went wrong and work to fix it for next time. Making mistakes is important.
But why is it we fear making mistakes so much? Most likely because we fear the rejection that might come with it. Rejection has been proven to cause actual pain even if it's only emotional, this is because it's been wired into are brains since people lived in tribes. It works as an early warning sign to warn us when we're in danger of be ostracised from the group which back then would have been a death sentence. This site Why Rejection Hurts So Much explains it much better and also talks about how to work past rejection.
All of this links in with Growth Mindset which I wrote about before and how we need to look forward to the challenge of a new task, including the mistakes, instead of worrying about the end result or the feedback. After all feedback is meant to help us understand what we did right or wrong and what to work on for next time.
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